Why does wholeness matter?
Have you ever been so sick that you forget what it's like to be healthy? Then when you get better again you just can't believe how sick you must've been? Last year when we travelled to New York with our then 10 month old we got the worst flu of our lives all at the same time that took us 2-3 full weeks to recover from and a round of very strong antibiotics. My husband and I constantly said to each other we wished it were over and we just couldn't remember what normal and healthy felt like anymore!
I sometimes think wholeness is like that-we either never know how good and whole we can be in a particular area so we don't even know what it would feel like to be whole, or we once were whole and have experienced brokenness and simply can't remember how wonderful it was to be whole in that area.
For me I don't think I knew I was broken. I thought that was just the way I was and because I was a generally happy and healthy person I didn't need to seek wholeness as such. But then when I was in the company of someone who was further in life than I was, one who lived in a place of wholeness, or if I listened to podcasts by our favourite preacher or I read certain books I was faced with this reality or dimension of wholeness that I had never thought was possible!
Wholeness is important I believe because we were designed by God to be His direct image on earth, he created us to be like Him and to live full lives stewarding all that is in and on the earth to bring fulfilment to our days and purpose to our relationship with Him. When we are bound by complex emotional responses, toxic thought patterns, crippled by fears, and unmet expectations we can never a) function in this capacity we were designed to and b) actually ever enjoy life or have others enjoy life with us too!
I think what has sparked this desire in me to pursue wholeness with more fervour in my own life is that as a mother I now understand that I pass things on to my own children and I sincerely hope to pass on a legacy of strength and health, balanced emotions, strong spirits, and clear and healthy minds to my children.
When I was overdue to have my first child I sat in her nursery during the 10 day wait and prayed, I don't remember what I prayed exactly but I remember that God gave me a scripture and it was 2 Timothy 1:7 'For I have not given you a spirit of fear, but one of love, power and a sound mind' and this I have felt is the legacy I want to pass on to my children. I speak it over them constantly and as I speak the words out loud I speak them again over myself too. That I wouldn't continue on the path of unsoundthoughts and emotions but I would receive and live with the Spirit of a sound mind and enjoy the benefits of that!
So although for me wholeness is something I myself will get to enjoy and live in if I allow myself to be made whole by the Spirit of God as I walk through this life, it is moreover something that I get to cultivate in my own life to pass on to my children, empowering them to live healthy, strong and free lives themselves.
It is this ripple affect that wholeness has, when a whole person is living in a space of freedom and strength that makes others around them desire to be whole too and that's why I think it is important to pursue it not just personally to enjoy the freedom it brings personally, but to allow that freedom and wholeness to inspire others to seek their own too.
Being happy, present, balanced, clear headed, not easy to take offence, easy to communicate with and able to offer wisdom from a place of strength is a wonderful thing and something I truly aspire to-to live in a place of wholeness.